We are fortunate that Cainan has not reached a point where he constantly seeks food. However, it's very clear that Cainan does not feel full or ever feels like he's had enough food. We strictly limit the quantity of food he is allowed to eat at one setting because we know the possible dangers. It scares me, sometimes when he gets a big plate of food and I know he'll eat every bite if I don't remove some of it. I know that I can keep him safe but he spends a lot of time away from me; with grandparents, at school, and as he gets older, other social functions. Even though we explain Cainan's condition and we talk about the danger of overeating, I rarely feel like anyone else "gets it"--especially when I see how much food he's offered in some settings.
Coryion's death--the boy that is the same age as Cainan--breaks my heart and instills real fear in me for my son's well being. If you or I overeat, we can feel uncomfortable, may even experience pain or vomit if we've binged to the extreme. Cainan does not experience pain like we do--he probably wouldn't feel it or complain about it. He also lacks the ability to throw-up, the only natural defense mechanism against overeating. That means if Cainan eats too much, he can die--in a very short amount of time.
Do you get it? He can die from getting too much food.
Our culture struggles with healthy food relationships. We use food to comfort, to show love, to facilitate social interactions. We're often encouraged to eat. We have a real struggle withholding food to anyone, for any reason. I have had family members question me when I tell them he cannot have more of something or argue with me that he's hungry. My response is that he's always hungry and the extra food is not going to help him with that. It's obvious to me that they don't understand the constant hunger struggle and the real danger of letting him eat without limit--his life is on the line!
Recently, the national Prader-Willi Syndrome Association (PWSA USA) put out an article about the risk of death due to stomach rupture or bowel necrosis in individuals with PWS. If you know us, or anyone with PWS, please, PLEASE, read it. Know that withholding food is not cruel. Know that people who have PWS do not have stomachs like ours, cannot complain about symptoms that could be life-threatening and could die from simply getting too much food. Please help us spread awareness and keep our loved ones safe.